Caregiver Strategies for Military and Veteran Caregivers

Does this sound like you?


You need help finding a balance between your caregiver tasks and your personal development, but you don’t know where to turn.


You tried looking up success coaches and life coaches, but their advice isn’t applicable to your busy caregiver life.


You want to find someone who will understand the unique demands of your life and show you how to fit fulfillment in your schedule.

If those three sentences just described YOU: welcome, dear Glue-Girl. You’ve come to the right place.

I created She Is The Glue to share my caregiver strategies with women just like you. Women who are strong, intelligent and have dreams  to achieve. Women who are caring for a husband or wife with military injuries.

Hi, I’m Katie. I’m a caregiver strategist and owner of She Is The Glue. I create products to teach women who are military/veteran caregivers how to life a fulfilling life. My focus is showing women how to balance their caregiving tasks with personal development, because when WE are fulfilled, we are better caregivers.

I’m a veteran caregiver, wife and proud Mama of two. I have twelve years of veteran spouse experience under my belt, and I understand the demands of the caregiver role. For the past few years, I have been serving caregivers who are looking for strategies to develop their own lives.

Praise for The Conquering Caregiver Course:

I found this course to be very helpful. The fact that you realize we are all busy and I could watch the videos at my own pace when I had the time and didn’t have to have an assignment done that day really helped. The videos were long enough to give pertinent info but not so long I had to stop midway to go take care of other things.

Emily S

Katie is so inspiring! She understands the caregiver/Veteran spouse life. With her course, I was able to take some time for myself and figure out what direction I want to go in. Katie and her course have helped me change up my daily routine, and that has been a game changer. Connecting with others who live similar lives, has been amazing. I think every caregiver/Veteran spouse should take this course. We are not alone and we matter.

Stephanie H

“She Is The Glue” has been my cheerleader throughout this course! She has inspired me, encouraged me, and helped me set achievable goals! I feel confident that I can handle my caregiving tasks. I recognize that tough days will still come, but thanks to this training, I am now better prepared for those days too! I’m not who I was two weeks ago when I started the course, my eyes are opened to the less stressful, less dramatic, positive perspective of caregiving! “She Is The Glue” has had an impact on our household for the benefit of the entire family!

Laura S


What Is The Conquering Caregiver Course?

The Conquering Caregiver Course was created to give you the tools to start living your life with strategies to fit your interests and needs in your life.


You have heard over and over again what actions you “should” be doing to live a healthy life, a joyful life… but do you need some help with implementation?

Maybe you were rocking it perfectly fine before your veteran’s health declined… now you need some support finding a new normal.

Inside the course, we’ll focus on key areas that every caregiver is faced with:


We are going to get clear on what you need to focus on.

Household Tasks

Get an organized system for housekeeping in place so you can use your valuable energy elsewhere.


Develop a system to handle medical appointments and paperwork.

"When All Else Fails Day"

Plan for crazy days in advance, so when one happens, you won’t have to worry.


Identify ways to fit self-care in your life, (for real).


Figure out what action you need to take so you can take this off your list of worries.


Here's How it Works:

  • Once you sign up for the course, you’ll receive lifetime access to all 6 modules.
  • Inside each module is a series of videos, and you’ll have me (a caregiver who understands your role) walking you through every step.
  • Each module is accompanied by worksheets that you can print out and write notes.
  • I will be there to support you every step of the way with our VIP group on Facebook.
  • You will also receive a one-on-one brainstorm session with me, to help you with any blocks.

I KNOW how busy your caregiver life is, (I’m a caregiver too), so I designed this program for you to be able to watch it when it works for YOU.


That’s sounds really great, but…


I don't have time for a course! I'm too busy caregiving

Sister, I get it. That is EXACTLY why I made this course. Caregivers deserve to reach for success just like everyone else.

We have to work a little harder and get creative. That means watching the videos when it’s convenient for you. That’s why I created this program to fit YOUR schedule, instead the other way around.

I’ve listened to live trainings with headphones at the VA, scratching notes down on paper… while trying to keep my husband calm and my children entertained. I didn’t get anything out of that webinar. Only frustration. That’s why MY course is available to you 24/7.

You can log in and watch it when it works for YOU. You can watch the videos over and over- so if you get interrupted, you can return to the course later at a better time.


We can't afford it.

You can’t afford NOT to. You need to make yourself a priority.

We’re living a very unique life.

Some veteran caregivers are children or relatives of elderly veterans. Naturally, the years that they will be providing care are limited.

Veteran spouse caregivers are unique because we have AN ENTIRE LIFETIME of caregiving ahead of us. We’re in it for the long haul. Decades-long caregiving is not sustainable unless you take care of yourself, both physically AND mentally.

We need to take care of not just our veteran and our family’s health, we MUST include ourselves. Our family needs us to be healthy and capable in order to provide the best care for them.

You need to know that your health and happiness must be a priority. You need to actively avoid burnout. You need to work towards fulfillment in your life. It is crucial. The time is now.


Is this really for someone like me? Do I really need this?

Yes, if you are a caregiver YOU MUST HAVE SUPPORT. Caregiving is an honorable task to undertake, but it is certainly a daunting one.

Disabled veteran families can find themselves in a frustrating situation. Most likely, you have moved away from base and do not have a strong local support system. This can lead to a feeling of isolation. Furthermore, the VA is a confusing system to navigate, further compounding the frustration.

Many of your friends may have civilian husbands, and you’re aching to find someone to connect with, who “gets” you.

RAND Corporation presented research estimating that there are 5.5 million caregivers of disabled veterans in the United States.

There are a lot of caregivers in our shoes, and you need to know you are not alone. 

Official Bio

From an early age, Kathleen (Katie) Butterfield had a passion for serving others with the goal of increasing quality of life. She has always believed in the body and mind connection and promoting good health practices. She received her Bachelor of Science from Bridgewater State University in physical education with a concentration in adapted physical education and motor development therapy.

She spent her early career creating organization systems and implementing ideas to improve productivity and quality of service, in both corporate and rehabilitation sectors. She thoroughly enjoyed her work helping individuals with disabilites. Katie fervently believes everyone deserves to live a quality life regardless of illness or disability.

She launched She Is The Glue in 2016 to use her skill set to serve other veteran spouse caregivers while caring for her own husband. Katie was honored to participate as a guest panel speaker at a 2016 Massachusetts VA talk on caregiving. She launched her caregiver strategy course, The Conquering Caregiver Course, in summer of 2017.